#1 He can’t keep track of his exes
You know he has had one too many if he needs time to count how many girls he’s been with. It’s worse if he classifies them under “serious” and “non-serious” relationships, as this shows he can enter a relationship without giving it much thought.
#2 He has too many female friends
There are way more women than men on his Facebook friends list. And many of them aren’t contacts from work, school or hobby groups. He may be picking them up in random places like clubs, or he’s deliberately trying to meet as many women as possible.
#3 He only talks about himself
Your conversations are all about him – what he had for lunch, how his day went, how he’s feeling and so on. He rarely asks about you. When you do try to talk about yourself, his attention easily drifts off to other things like his phone or the girl sitting two tables away.
#4 He makes empty promises
He often says things like “Let’s try this restaurant next week” or “I’ll take you to my next class gathering”, but never comes through. He does this to keep you interested, but doesn’t follow through because it would suggest some form of commitment to you. And to avoid keeping his promises, he’ll cough up lame excuses, like he’s too busy or has to attend an important family gathering.
#5 He contradicts himself
He says he’s never been keen on marriage, but you fi nd out from a mutual friend that he was engaged to his last girlfriend. Or he might say that he’s deeply in love with you, but he’s never interested in making plans for the future or meeting your family. All these show that he is confused and unclear about what he wants from relationships – that’s why he can’t settle down and keeps playing the field.
This story was first published in Her World magazine, August 2013 issue.